Trust. Often referred to as fringy, broken, distant – and at the same time infinite, never ending, and strong. What makes to people with apparently similar experiences define their trust in two different ways? Trust, this amazing phenomenon being both a choice and a gift. When being opened, it releases freedom, proximity and optimism, risk appetite and commitment.
What makes you willing to go for it, in the moment you start a new job, in the moment you hire someone or make a change of career, in the moment you confess to someone and in the moment you forgive.
In lyk-z, we have trust as one of our core values in everything we do. We have an endless trust in the human ability to change, we trust that everything is possible despite what is found in the backpack. This trust creates a considerably larger room for action and liberty to be creative. It´s like the whole room takes a deep breath.
Most of us – if not all of us – have experienced lack of trust and rejection from our environments – based on our history and experience. “No way, don´t you remember how it went the last time?” That man is never going to change.”
What do you notice in situations where there is no trust? What becomes the truth you keep telling yourself? What about the situations where trust is all around – what becomes different?
When it comes to the word trust, various terms are used – most familiar is naïve. This is where your endless trust might be met with a warning. You might have to pay for this! Nevertheless, the price of distrust is countless misunderstandings, lost opportunities, constant high shoulders, and suspiciousness. You might be proven wrong in choosing trust and you might be proven right in your scepticism. Either way- YOU are always a bigger you and creating the very best conditions in cooperation as trustful. And- you can enjoy the journey (no matter the outcome).
It is natural that your trust will be challenged and tested continuous. Triggering situations makes your heart and mind feel like they´re tighten up for a moment, for then to bounce back into their original shape. Stirred, maybe, but not broken. It would be unfair allowing others to decide your own relationship with your trust. It´s yours to own no matter the size or shape.
We dare to say that trust is a choice. When working with youth at risk, this trust in human ability to change requires persistence in resistance. Trusting and allowing changes and growth of new potential is often related to fear when breaking old barriers. The real danger, is allowing old barriers, avoiding the direct questions and the natural trust that comes with it. We choose to nourish growth rather than limiting thoughts. The process can be demanding and with growth, growing pain is inevitable. Being stuck in old limiting beliefs is even more painful.
Being part of this wonderful journey of the Work@ble project, lyk-z has been responsible for developing the questions used in parts of the game. These questions are made from trust and from the perspective of enlightening the wealthy part of the individuals, as well as mastery. lyk-z has also been responsible for connecting the modules building bridges.
If there is anything youth at risk – or youth with extra challenges need – it is trust. Trust that they have what it takes, trust that they can develop, learn, grow, and change. We believe that this path is more easily accessible – by focusing on the strengths, values, and qualities, rather than the challenges.
We trust that this game will evoke a transformation of ways to strengthen self-esteem and build competence for ways to enter the work market for people with disabilities. Where there is 100% trust, magic moments will happen.
Vera Lykseth, lyk-z & daughters
